Gay "Liberation"

A couple of days back I read an article about a lesbian couple who had broken up.  The couple had a child together and raised it as their own with two mothers.  The birth mother no longer wanted the marriage and left her partner.  She decided to go to another state and start a 'straight' life.  

The adoptive mother is now involved in the courts trying to get access to the child that she raised as her own daughter.  I find it interesting that an avowed lesbian claims to magically be straight to avoid her responsibility as a parent and as a divorced person.  Straight couples work out custody issues every day and children are allowed to see their parents.  It sickens me when we as gays scream and whine about wanting equal rights, then we use 'straight' law to avoid our responsibilities.  

I feel sorry for the child that is being denied access to her loving mother.   I feel sorry for the adoptive mother who is now forced to fight for family time with her child.  I also feel sorry for the gay community because the behaviors of the birth mother bring shame and ridicule on us.   I feel sorry for everyone involved except for the selfish cruel birth parent who has taken a loving child away from her loving mother.  

If we as gays want equal rights then we need to live appropriately.  We need to accept the responsibilities that come with those rights.  If we are to raise children together, then we need to be adults and share parenting if we decide to end a relationship.  Not for our own sake, but for the sake of the child.  We do not need to act the fool and use the weaknesses of the 'straight' system to defend our actions.  

The simple fact of the matter is that this woman is using the flaws in the 'straight' system to keep her child away from it's mother.  She as birth mother is claiming that there is no legitimate relationship between the child and her adoptive mother and she is using the legal system to allow her to do what would land any straight parent in jail.    She is using the inherent flaws in the 'straight' system to be cruel to her child and to the girls adoptive mother.  

When my ex wife tried to deny me access to my children a very stern judge told her point blank to her face that if she interfered with our together time again he would put her in jail and then I would have all the time I wanted with my children.  I wonder who will act as an advocate for this adoptive parent?  Will the courts do what is right and make the birth parent share parenting time with the adoptive parent?  Or will a vindictive angry lesbian get away with using the unfairness in the  straight oriented system to treat one of her own community poorly?  

I think we all know what to expect.  The child will bear the consequences of her unfit birth mothers actions.  And to make matters worse the heterosexual oriented court system will be a partner in the destruction of this little girl's life when they are instead supposed to do what is right for the child.  But the political agenda's of an angry lesbian and the religious right will be intact so I guess that makes it all right.